Parents Speak With Your Child And Not To Your Child

Just think back when you were a child. How many times did you feel that no one understood you? Your child and my child are facing the same dilemma.

The difference is that we don’t have to allow history to repeat itself. We have the power to change history. We need to learn to speak with our children instead of speaking to them. What is the difference you ask? When we speak to them we come from a point of authority. As if the other person or in this case your child has no say in the conversation. When we speak with our children they feel that they are included in the conversation and that their opinion matters. This gives children a sense of being heard, being understood. This creates a freedom to share with you things that most children share with their friends or other adults.

So parents speak with and not to your child…

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STOP LABELING YOUR CHILD NEGATIVELY...

 Do you label your child in a negative way?

Do you say things like...'You are always ungrateful! You are very naughty! You are stupid!' Just to name a few.

This past weekend I spoke to one of the parents who told me about her MOODY child. This little girl is only two years old. The previous day the mom told me that her daughter had a fever and was not well for the past two days. As I listened to her I was reminded of what she told me and interrupted her. I said to her: 'Do not label your child as being moody. She is only two years old. Remember that children that age does not have the vocabulary to tell you how they feel. They communicate using their emotions.'

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Parents! Children cry when they are upset, angry, hungry, tired, uncomfortable, dirty and when they are sick. You need to find out what the problem is. When you find that your child is comfortable, satisfied, healthy, clean and all is in order, then look at their emotional tank. Their emotional tank should be full all the time. This is when they know and feel loved. Children know they are loved when you have done the following things:
1. You gave them eye contact (See your child, validate their presence, acknowledge them)
2. You gave them focused attention (listening to them and really understanding their need)
3. You gave them physical touch (in a pruposeful way that make the child feel loved and safe)
4. Words of power (affirmation, encouragement, express love in words and more)
5. Discipline (Perhaps your child just needs loving discipline) and not punishment

Remember your child is your most valuable treasure. Take great care of them. Be mindful of the label you place on them. If you must put a label on your child may it be something of great value, something that will build their character. Say things like: 'You are such a loving child. You are very generous. You are kind. You are helpful. You are such a great blessing.' This list can never be exasperated. Put beautiful labels on your child...

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